Still spent some time doing maintenance, but this time I decided to build kali from scratch using the iso, and you have to manually install things like openvpn and vmtools. No big deal.
Open VPN install:
apt-get install openvpn
apt-get install network-manager-openvpn network-manager-openvpn gnome
once done you have to restart the service (i think anyway, i rebooted and it didnt work until i found this command)
to install vm tools
apt update && apt -y full-upgrade
this does a full and could update the kernel, so when its done reboot, then type
apt -y install open-vm-tools-desktop fuse
then reboot again.
I use keepass for my passwords and vmtools is important for copy/pasting my passwords into the guest os.